We all have heard the old saying, "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" and give credit to William Shakespeare for it, but did you know it actually derived from a longer and lesser known quote from William Congreve which reads "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." Regardless of which version of the quote you perfer, I was reminded of the validity of the statement earlier this week.
Earlier this week, the girlfriend of a friend of mine allegedly discovered that her boyfriend/husband of 19 years, her high school sweetheart, the man who took her virginity and the only man that she has been intimate with, had not just had an affair with a co-worker that had lasted for several months, but also fathered a child out of that situation (to go along with the two that they had together). Apparently this discovery was made by way of his facebook page or through his phone because she promptly hijacked his facebook page. Over the course of a week she proceeded to blast him, calling him every name in the book, posting the incriminating text messages, giving out information about the other woman and things like that. She also stated that she forwarded everything she had to both the other woman and his mother. And of course, with his phone in her possession and his facebook page under her control, nobody has been able to reach out to him.
The situation reminded me of the time when I called off my engagement to "Guyana". I didn't even cheat on her and for the two months that followed, she bashed me on MySpace and hacked into my e-mail account sending messages to everyone in my address book (some of you reading this might remember that). Thankfully, my "true" friends rallied around me and helped me get through the situation, but this situation had me thinking. Is there are difference between a one-night stand and an affair? Have you been in a situation where you've been cheated on? How far did you go to hurt the person who hurt you? Or better yet, did you ultimately forgive the person? In my situation with "Guyana", she was bitter for years, but as time went on, I forgave her because I evolved into a better place. Doesn't mean I'll forget. I just learned from the situation and moved on. Hopefully my friend and his girl will as well.