Saturday, April 28, 2012

I'm A Little Bit Country

So, last weekend, I went to a party with the Mrs. and a few of our friends. The DJ was pretty good and kept us on the dance floor for most of the night. By us, I mean, my friends and I. My wife on the other hand, she went running for her seat when the DJ went into a blues set that included "Hole In The Wall" by Mel Waiters and "Stand Up In It" by Cleotis (If you don't know them, youtube them. They are along the same lines as "Candy Licker" by Marvin Sease and "Strokin'" by Clarence Carter). Despite being born and raised in Brooklyn, I am always accused of getting in touch with my country roots when I hear songs like this. What can I say, I like the blues. It reminds me of Friday nights in my aunts basement when she would go through her albums and subject my cousin and I to them. As I got older, I have come to appreciate this entire genre of music and if this is what makes her consider me to be country, then so be it. I'll take me shot of brown liquor and my two step and be country for a few minutes.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

What Would You Do Wednesday

Situation: You were in a relationship for two years, after which time you became frustrated with the fact that your boyfriend (who your parents don't care for to begin with) didn't want to take the relationship to the next level. After much thought, prayer and consultation, you brake up with him. Less than two weeks later, you start a fling with someone who you have been noticing for a while, but never said anything two became of your relationship. Quickly, the fling becomes physical and the other person is catching serious emotional feelings. You like the new guy as well, but aren't ready for anything serious because of the situation you just came out of. After 3 months, you call off the fling and decide to just remain friends. A week later, you reconcile with your ex-boyfriend. Two weeks later, you find out you're pregnant. You aren't really sure who the father is, but don't want to mess things up with your ex that you just reconciled with so you play along with the idea that its his and won't persue a paternity test, or tell your ex-fling that there's a possibility that the baby you're carrying might be his. What would you do?

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

TMI Tuesday: Let's Talk About Sex

1. What is your sexual personality?
a. The Controller – initiating sex, twisting your lover into positions you want, and driving scene play by play
b. Sex Slave – You love to be used and at the mercy of your lover. You don’t initiate but follow and do as you are told. You love to be used.
c. Daredevil – Sexual adventure and sexual thrills are what you are all about. You get off on the risk factor.
d. Subdued – Sex is a necessary part of the relationship so you are available when needed.

I am a combination of all four, but as I get older, I tend to lean more towards C.

2. How many times have you sneaked away from party guests to have sex in another part of the party venue. Where did you sneak to? Were you ever caught? (For example, at a wedding reception you sneaked to have sex in the coat room. At a party, you sneaked to have sex in a bathroom or closet.)

Sadly, that hasn't happened to me yet. It's on the bucket list though.

3. Your sex partner that you are mad crazy for has requested you do one of the following, which one would you grant consent to do:
a. Bondage/light restraint with your hands, legs tied while having sex
b. A sexual spanking that leaves light marks
c. Record the two of you having sex
d. Have sex in a mirrored room where you can see yourselves having sex from every angle
I've done A and D already. C is on the bucket list, so I'd go with that one.

4. Do you act out your sexual fantasies (select one)? Why?
a. I act out all of my fantasies.
b. I act out many of my fantasies.
c. I act out some of my fantasies.
d. I act out very few of my fantasies.
e. I don’t act out any of my fantasies.
f. I don’t have any fantasies.

I'd have to say C. I have acted out some, but some fantasies will just have to stay that way.

5. How important is sex in your life (select one)?
a. I could hardly survive without it.
b. It is very important.
c. It is somewhat important.
d. I could live without it.
e. If it were up to me, sex wouldn’t even exist!
I'd go with C. 10 years ago the answer would have been B, but as I get older, I realize that sex is just part of a bigger picture. A fun and enjoyable part, but just a part nonetheless.

Bonus: Finish the following phrase.

Sex is different each time and with each different person. If it isn't for you, you're doing something wrong.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Weekend Update: Not Enough Hours

There are 63 1/2 hours between the time I clock out on Friday night and the time I clock in on Monday morning. If you've been following my blog for a while, you already know that I like to make the most of the first 48 of those hours. This weekend was no exception. From the time I got home Friday until Sunday afternoon, I was on the go. So much so that when I got home from church on Sunday, I crashed. Friday, the Mrs and I were invited to a party hosted by the lodge that a mutual friend of ours is a member of. For some reason, it started at 9pm, which didn't allow much time to do anything else after work but get ready. After freshening up, shaving, getting dressed and taking the child to his grandmother we were off to Astoria. Before we could even park, we realized it was going to be a night full of jokes if nothing else. Looking at some of the outfits going into this venue, you would have thought it was the Playa's Ball for sure. We get inside and the buffet and open bar are already going as is the DJ who was playing a pretty decent dinner time mix. Certainly better than the elevator music you get on most functions. The food was pretty decent for a function such as this. As always, I went with the salmon for my entree, but would have been full off of the buffet if given the chance. After dinner and the formalities that come with an event such as this, the dj get it going with The Wobble and didn't let up from there. We partied until 2am and yes, I was the last one on the dance floor. Saturday, going on 4 hours of sleep, I went to a business breakfast at the church. That was followed up with 4 seperate conversations (2 of which require their own post) and a trip to the movies to see "Think Like A Man" (which will also require its own post). After the movie, I treated my in-laws to dinner before finally getting home and in the confines of my own bed. Sunday was church then back home for anything sports; hockey, basketball and baseball. How was your weekend?

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

I am often reminded of the scene in "Head Of State", right before the "That Ain't Right" speech. Bernie Mac comes in and asks Chris Rock what is arguably the most important question in the movie - "when they gonna let you speak?". By that he did not mean saying what was written for him to say. Instead, he wanted to know what he was going to stop hiding behind the script writers and say what is on his mind. I often find myself in that position. So caught up in the opinions and reactions of others, that I sometimes edit or hold back entirely, my opinions and thoughts about a certain thing. It I becoming more evident each day that this is not the healthiest way to live.

I am no angel. I have thoughts and opinions that some people might not appreciate or agree with. At the same time, I also have a few friendships that are non-judgmental. I can feel totally comfortable talking about anything without fear of having my opinions judged or criticized. Sadly, these friendships are the exception, not the rule. At least, until now. My sanity is too important for me not to put myself first, and part of that means being honest with myself and those around me. For me to be the friend that I want to be to certain people I need to b honest with them. At the same time, to get rid of some people, I need to b honest with them too. Its not going to be easy, but it definitely is going to be worth it.

As the old saying goes, "the truth shall set you free". If that's the case, I can't wait to be free. This might turn out to be the best thing I have done for myself all year. I am actually looking forward to it.

Monday, April 16, 2012

Untitled Rant

The relationship between my father and I has been well documented through my blogs over the years. For the benefit of those who haven't been around for the last 7 years, let's just say we aren't Theo and Cliff Huxtable. That being said, he has been in the hospital for the last few days and certain people refused to tell me. They tell my wife, but not me. Thankfully, her loyalty is to me and she told me. Not only did she tell me, but she gave me the reasons that those who told her didn't want me to know. I find it funny that certain people in my life a) think they can control me ad b) won't let me grow up. Its funny that some people live such uneventful lives that they constantly get involved in mine. Regardless of the relationship I have with my father, he is still my father and I am still his son. Nobody should ever get in between that.

Operation H.A.M. : Strength In Numbers (Part II)

I might actually be on to something. After a few weeks of flying solo, I was joined last week by a good friend. This past weekend, I was joined by 2 people and we pushed each other, hard. Generally, I go for three miles, but this weekend I went for 5 and my legs were screaming. Afterwards, I went and did some community service which gave me a really good workout. Jumped on the scale afterwards and I am down six pounds for the year. Not where I want to be, but better than where I was.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

TMI Tuesday: Love, Hate and Guilty Secrets

Love, Hate, and Guilty Secrets. We never mind telling people about things we love or hate, but how about the things we love, but would hate for anyone to find out about?

Well, it’s time to free yourself of that fear!

For each of the categories below, list one thing you love, one that you hate, and then, take a deep breath and tell us something you hate to admit you love.

Really. You’ll feel better for it!

1. Food

I love
: Burgers, cheeseburgers to be exact. And not that simple American cheeseburger either. Those are good, but let's mix it up. Pepper jack or blue cheese add a kick to any burger. Then give me sauteed onions and either ranch or blue cheese dressing and I am good to go.

I hate Any meat that ends in "i". Pepperoni, Anchovi, Salami, Pastrami. There is not much you can do to get me to eat them.

My guilty secret is Peanut butter. I guess its not that much of a secret, but I LOVE peanut butter. Probably more than chocolate.

2. Apparel

I love

I hateShort sleeve, button up, dress shirts. Unless you're wearing khakis, a short sleeve shirt is not meant to be tucked in. This look needs to stay in the accounting department.

My guilty secret isSuits. I don't wear them often, but I do enjoy wearing them, especially now when we live in a society filled with boys who complain if they are forced to be in a tie. My suit and tie game is off the hook.

3. Books

I love
"Quickie" by James Patterson. It'll take a lot to get me to read for pleasure (I know, and I'm working on it), and to be perfectly honest, I only picked this one up because of the title, but I was hooked from the beggining. A great read and a lot of plot twists.

I hate It's hard to say that I "hate" a book, but there are a few books that I wouldn't re-read.

My guilty secret is"The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists" by Neil Strauss. If you really know me, you might not be surprised at this, but this book had my attention from page one. I loved this book so much that I brought it not once, but twice.

4. Songs

I love
: "Ready Or Not" by After 7. In my opinion, the best written song of all time by one of the most underrated groups of the 1980's

I hate: "So Special" by Movado. This song should have been called "So Annoying".

My guilty secret is: The "Glitter" Soundtrack. Don't judge me, but I enjoyed it.

5. Movie

I love:
"The Five Heartbeats". I love it so much that I try my best not to watch it with anyone because I know all of the songs and most of the script.

I hate: "Hostel" I don't know why this movie, or its sequal, was made. I want my money back. If it wasn't snowing when i went to see it I would have walked out on it.

My guilty secret is: "Defending Your Life"

6. TV Show

I love:
"Grey's Anatomy"

I hate: Any reality show with 'Wives' in the title.

My guilty secret is Monday Night Raw. Yes, I am still a wrestling fan. Probably always will be.

7. Celebrity Crush

I love:
Gabrielle Union

I hate: Niki Manaj (or however you spell it)

My guilty secret is: Sandra Bullock

8. Music Group

I love:
Earth, Wind & Fire

I hate: Any group that doesn't use real musicians

My guilty secret is Maroon 5

9. Sports Team

I love:
The New York Mets

I hate: The New England Patriots

My guilty secret is: Any team associated with the University of Texas


Sex Position or Sex Act or fetish

I love: To Eat

I hate: Cyber (do they still do that anymore?)

My guilty secret is: I like to watch

Monday, April 9, 2012

Phone Check

I have a bad habit of not returning phone calls and recently, it came back to bite me in the butt. Last weekend, a friend of mine called me. Not only did I miss the call, I didn't bother to check the message. Three days later I was informed that my friend suffered a heart attack less than 24 hours after calling me. Needless to say, I was saddened, not only by his death, but by the fact that I couldn't make time to call him back. Life is precious and we (myself included) have to do better when it comes to the people we care about. Take the time out to call someone and let them know you're thinking about them. If you call me, I WILL, return your call.

Operation H.A.M. : Strength In Numbers

After last Saturday was washed out I was backed on the track Saturday morning. After two laps I noticed an individual in a hoodie stretching as I came around on my next lap, this person removed his hoodie and it turned out to be a friend of mine. After exchanging pleasantries we went back to the track. Next thing I know it was amost 7:30am. Generaly, I am only out there for about an hour, but Saturday I did an hour and a half. It's amazing what you can do with just a little support. I wonder if he will be back next week and if we could get anyone else to join us.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Operation 2012: March Update

This year is going by really quickly. Its April already and the countdown to my birthday has already begun (57 days and counting for those who want to get me a gift). The year is a fourth of the way finished, and it seems it just started yesterrday. Where has the time gone.

Last month was pretty good for the most part. Started a walking/running program as well as another health initiative that will be given its own post later. I did more cooking last monththan I have in a long time, which is good (the Mrs. And I share those responsibilities. She does dinner Monday, Tuesday andThursday. I do breakfast and dinner on Saturday and Sunday). Date nights have continued as have family nights. Work is getting better and the more I network, the more opportunities come to me personally.

This month I plan on being more consistent with my exercise and diet. I also plan on putting things in motion to knock some more things off of my bucket list. As always, I will keep you posted as things happen.