Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Ultimate Life Lessons

I remember it like it was yesterday; Sunday, April 1, 1990. I sat Indian style on the floor of my aunts basement as we watched Wrestlemania VI. The main event was dubbed "The Ultimate Challenge". It pitted defending champion and face of the company, Hulk Hogan against the upstart Intercontinental Champion and number one contender, The Ultimate Warrior. Hogan represented tradition. His rise to fame started in the late 70's and by 1990 he had successfully merged professional wrestling and pop culture. With his victory over Andre The Giant three years earlier, he had secured his place in history. The Warrior represented a new generation and was a precursor to the attitude era available that was to come later in the 90's. His claim to fame to this point was winning the Intercontinental Championship in a record 27 seconds 20 months earlier. I was the only one rooting for the Warrior in the house that night; and I was the only one that went home happy and Warrior won a match that changed both men forever. Hogan became "Immortal" and Warrior became the man.

Over the next 6 years both men came in an out of the WWF and eventually left for rival promtion, WCW. Hogan ebentually retirned to WWF, which by then was now WWE. Warrior just faded to black. He had some issues with WWE and depending on who you listen to, you can choose for yourself who to blame. Regardless, it would take 17 years before Warrior would be featured in a positive light on WWE television again. That moment came earlier this month during Wrestlemania weekend. Warrior was inducted into the Hall of Fame. He attended Wrestlemania on April 6th. He appeared on Monday Night Raw on April 7th and died, April 8th. Much as he did when he wrestled, he also left an impression in his death.

As I watched the news roll I. And listened to all of the stories, I found a few positives to take from MN this situation. Stay true ebb to who you are, bury all grudges and let others define your legacy. Warrior's 17 absence from the company that made him a superstar hurt both parties, but ultimately both sides grew up and reconciled their differences. Both sides put pride aside in the end, but Warrior stood by his beliefs even when WWE tried to defame his character and him as a person. A lesser man would not be able to do that.

By returning to the company at Wrestlemania Warrior was also able to bury a few grudges that he has had with a few Web individuals over the years. Some that go nack so far that TV you dont even remember what the feud was about. Considering what happened, I am sure those guys were happy to get those weights lifted off of their shoulders. Likemy old pastor used to say, "its better to give someone their flowers while theycan smell them". Nobody hears you when you say "I love you" or "Im sorry" while they are laying in a coffin.

The last lesson might habe been the most the most poignant. During his last televisio appearance,MN less tham 24 hours before he did, Warrior made the following statement:

"Every man's heart one day beats its final beat, his lungs breathe their last breath; and dB if what thay man did in his life makes the blood pulse through the body of others, and makes them bleed deeper, than something larfer than life, then his essence, his spirit, will be immortalized by the storytellers, by the loyalty, by the memory of those who honor him and , ake the running the man did last forever.

The message I received from that was simple, if you do something with your life that touches the life of someone elseyou will live forever. Be great and you wont have to worry about your legacy. People will talk about you forever. It was almost as if he knew he was dying and writing his own obituary. Moments like that arent scripted, but that speech will live with me forever. So will my memories of the Ultimate Warrior.

Friday, April 4, 2014

Public Service Announcement: For The Ladies

When you work with people long enough you have a tendency to get close to them. You share things about each others lives, share in each others joys and occassionally in each others pains. Thats the situation I find myself in today.I have one co-worker I particular that I hit it off with well. She is the one I spend the most time interacting with. Our birthdays are two days apart so we tend the have similar thought patterns. After two years we can now just look at each other and know what the other person is thinking.

Yesterday, she received a phone call from a relative informing her that they were taking her mother to the emergency room. Apparently her mother had picked a scab that was near her breast. It was bleeding and they could not get the blood to stop. My co-worker headed to the emergency room. She called in to the office this morning to inform us that her mother had been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. She had a lump the size of a grapefruit and they had kept her and were checking to see if the cancer had spread.

Anytime I hear about a woman being diagnosed with breast cancer I make it point to do what I can to remind the women in my life to get checked often. This post is just part of me getting the word out. If there are any women reading this, I am asking, encouraging and begging you to make sure you and the women in your life get tested. I appreciate you all and want you to do the best you can to be the best you can. The more people we can save the better.

Thursday, April 3, 2014

Tell'em How You Feel Thursday

Daniel Murphy is the second baseman for the New York Mets. Some might argue that he is the third best player on the team behind David Wright and Curtis Granderson. On Monday, Murphy's wife gave birth to their child. Murphy flew down to Florida to be with his wife and newborn child while his team started the season in New York. According to the collective bargaining agreement, Murphy is entitled to three days off from work for paternity leave. The team granted him the three days, but his decision to leave did not sit well with everyone in New York

Mike Francesa, a local sports radio talk show host had a problem with Murphy leaving his team on Opening day. He was quoted as saying "what are you going to do? I mean you are going to sit there and look at your wife in a hospital bed for two days? Your wife doesn't need your help the first couple of days; you know you're not duoing much the first couple days with the baby that was just born." Boomer Esiason, on his radio show, insisted that Murphy should have told his wife to have a C-Section because he needed to be at opening day.

This is why I dont care too much for sports talk radio. Being a baseball player is a job like anything else. It's not even an important job in the grand scheme of things. I have no problem with Murphy being with his family. In my opinion, he has his priorities in order and every one else is wrong. Even if it was 3 games in the World Series I would hope he would still preder to be with his family. So what if the Mets lost both of the games that he missed and one of those games was lost solely becausr of the man that replaced Murphy, its just two games in a 162 game season. The birth of a child is a rare and special event that not everyone gets to enjoy. I have more respect for Murphy now because of his decision. As for the sports radio jocks, they need to get their priorities in order.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

What Would You Do Wednesday

You are a recently divorced female in your late 30's. Now that you are ready to date again, your best friend decidesto hook you up with the godfather of one of her children. Things go well from the start. Hee is fun to be around, the sex is good and there are no real red flags. Only problem is that when you feel ready to commit, he wen isnt. You continue seeing him because you like him, but a few more months have passed without a commitment so you end things with him because you are starting to feel more like a friend with benefits than the woman in his life. A few weeks later, your best friend decides to try and hook you up with the god father of her other child. This situation works out even better than the first. Less than a year after dating you are engaged to be married and you are in the process of planning your wedding. At what point do you tell your fiancé about the other person. Since they are both godparents to your best friends children they are bound to end up in the same place at the same time eventually. And was the best friend wrong with people who knew each other?